A Letter To My Future Wife: I Want To Keep You Happy Forever

My dear future wife,

I hope you are reading this, and if you aren’t then I wish
 you stumble upon this letter because I want you to know 
 a few things…

I can’t stop thinking about you and the time when we will 
be together. I want this letter to be the evidence of a 
promise to become the man of your dreams!

I may not be aware about the difficulties and responsibilities
 that will come after our marriage but I promise to handle 
them as wisely as I can.

I have seen many couples in my life and all of them worked as
a source of education and now I vow to do the following things in
 the best way possible:

Your smile will be my priority. Your happiness will be 

my concern.

All that I will want from myself will be the capability to keep you 
happy forever. 

My love for you will multiply each day and will increase 

every second.

I promise to look at you with same adoration till my last breath!

That sparkle in your eyes that you get when you are 

motivated, excited, inspired or about to kiss me, I will 

keep that ignited forever.

I promise to keep you entertained and not to make your

 life monotonous.

We will try different hobbies, things of our interest, etc. and keep this 
adventurous ride on.

I promise to be your friend, a friend with whom you can be 

free.

Free to express your wants and desires. You can discuss anything with
 me, and together we will laugh at our silly past.

I promise to motivate you. You don’t have to stop thinking

 about your dreams.

Because I want you to live your dreams.

I promise to kiss you the same way we kiss the first time.

That passion will last till eternity.

I promise to help you with the chores. I promise to cook for

 you.

Because I know that you will feel special if I do that.

I promise to take care of our children. They won’t be your

 responsibility alone!

You alone don’t have to give up sleep. I will be there by your side to
 take care of them.

I promise to love your family as much as you love them, and

  try to be there for them.

I know how important they are for you. I will never try to make you
 forget them. Rather, I will become a part of your family.

I won’t be anything without you and I will make you feel how

 important you are for me and my life.

My life will be of no meaning without you and I will make sure you know
 this.

I promise not to take your independence — physically,

 intellectually, or emotionally.

You don’t have to give up your personal space for anything. That
 personal time will be all yours.

Darling, these are not just my thoughts but actual promises from 
my side. I don’t know when we will be together but I know that I
 will try to make each moment of your life beautiful and worth 
remembering. I will become the man of your dreams. I promise to
 love you from the moment you enter my life till my last breath.

Your loving future husband.

Frog Theory

Put a frog into a vessel filled with water and start heating the water. As the temperature of the water begins to rise, the frog adjusts its body temperature accordingly. The frog keeps adjusting its body temperature with the increasing temperature of the water. Just when the water is about to reach boiling point, the frog cannot adjust anymore. At this point the frog decides to jump out. The frog tries to jump but it is unable to do so because it has lost all its strength in adjusting with the rising water temperature. Very soon the frog dies. What killed the frog? Think about it! I know many of us will say the boiling water. But the truth about what killed the frog was its own inability to decide when to jump out. We all need to adjust with people and situations, but we need to be sure when we need to adjust and when we need to move on. There are times when we need to face the situation and take appropriate actions. If we allow people to exploit us physically, emotionally, financially, spiritually or mentally they will continue to do so. Let us decide when to jump! Let's jump while we still have the strength. 

Cockroach Theory

The cockroach theory for self development

At a restaurant, a cockroach suddenly flew from somewhere and sat on a lady.

She started screaming out of fear.

With a panic stricken face and trembling voice, she started jumping, with both her hands desperately trying to get rid of the cockroach.

Her reaction was contagious, as everyone in her group also got panicky.

The lady finally managed to push the cockroach away but ...it landed on another lady in the group.

Now, it was the turn of the other lady in the group to continue the drama.

The waiter rushed forward to their rescue.

In the relay of throwing, the cockroach next fell upon the waiter.

The waiter stood firm, composed himself and observed the behavior of the cockroach on his shirt.

When he was confident enough, he grabbed it with his fingers and threw it out of the restaurant.

Sipping my coffee and watching the amusement, the antenna of my mind picked up a few thoughts and started wondering, was the cockroach responsible for their histrionic behavior?

If so, then why was the waiter not disturbed?

He handled it near to perfection, without any chaos.

It is not the cockroach, but the inability of those people to handle the disturbance caused by the cockroach, that disturbed the ladies.

I realized that, it is not the shouting of my father or my boss or my wife that disturbs me, but it's my inability to handle the disturbances caused by their shouting that disturbs me.

It's not the traffic jams on the road that disturbs me, but my inability to handle the disturbance caused by the traffic jam that disturbs me.

More than the problem, it's my reaction to the problem that creates chaos in my life.

Lessons learnt from the story:

I understood, I should not react in life.
I should always respond.

The women reacted, whereas the waiter responded.

Reactions are always instinctive whereas responses are always well thought of.

A beautiful way to understand............LIFE.

Person who is HAPPY is not because Everything is RIGHT in his Life..

He is HAPPY because his Attitude towards Everything in his Life is Right..!!

Ant and Grasshopper -Indian version of Story - too good and fact

Original Story:

The Ant works hard in the withering heat all summer building its house and

laying up supplies for the winter. The Grasshopper thinks the Ant is a fool
and laughs dances plays the summer away. Come winter, the Ant is warm and
well fed. The Grasshopper has no food or shelter so he dies out in the
cold.
laying up supplies for the winter. The Grasshopper thinks the Ant's a fool
and laughs dances plays the summer away.
to know why the Ant should be allowed to be warm and well fed while others
are cold and starving.
next to a video of the Ant in his comfortable home with a table filled with
food.
Grasshopper is allowed to suffer so?
Grasshoppers be relocated to warmer climates during winter .
not upholding the fundamental rights of the Grasshopper.
Grasshopper (many promising Heaven & Everlasting Peace for prompt support
as against the wrath of God for non-compliance) .
West Bengal and Kerala demanding a Judicial Enquiry.
the heat so as to bring about equality of poverty among Ants and
Grasshoppers.
Trains, aptly named as the 'Grasshopper Rath'.
Grasshoppers Act'[POTAGA] , with effect from the beginning of the winter..
Institutions in Government Services.
to pay his retroactive taxes, it's home is confiscated by the Government
and handed over to the Grasshopper in a ceremony covered by NDTV, BBC, CNN.
company in Silicon Valley ,
in India ,
As a result of losing lot of hard working Ants and feeding the
grasshoppers, India is still a developing country...!!!

Indian Version:

The Ant works hard in the withering heat all summer building its house and

Come winter, the shivering Grasshopper calls a press conference and demands

NDTV, BBC, CNN , Asianet show up to provide pictures of the shivering Grasshopper

The World is stunned by the sharp contrast. How can this be that this poor

Arundhati Roy stages a demonstration in front of the Ant's house.

Medha Patkar goes on a fast along with other Grasshoppers demanding that

Mayawati states this as 'injustice' done on Minorities.

Amnesty International and Koffi Annan criticize the Indian Government for

The Internet is flooded with online petitions seeking support to the

Opposition MPs stage a walkout. Left parties call for 'Bengal Bandh' in

CPM in Kerala immediately passes a law preventing Ants from working hard in

Railway minister allocates one free coach to Grasshoppers on all Indian Railway

Finally, the Judicial Committee drafts the 'Prevention of Terrorism Against

Education minister makes 'Special Reservation' for Grasshoppers in Educational

The Ant is fined for failing to comply with POTAGA and having nothing left

Arundhati Roy calls it 'A Triumph of Justice'.

Railway minister calls it 'Socialistic Justice'.

CPM calls it the 'Revolutionary Resurgence of the Downtrodden'

Koffi Annan invites the Grasshopper to address the UN General Assembly.

Many years later...

The Ant has since migrated to the US and set up a multi-billion dollar

100s of Grasshoppers still die of starvation despite reservation somewhere

....AND

As a result of losing lot of hard working Ants and feeding the
grasshoppers, India is still a developing country...!!!

Quotes

Here, then, are 25 of his most famous quotes. True to form, they are short, simple and direct in their wisdom.

• Man, the living creature, the creating individual, is always more important than any established style or system.
• What you habitually think largely determines what you will ultimately become.
• Take no thought of who is right or wrong or who is better than. Be not for or against.
• Reality is apparent when one ceases to compare. — There is “what is” only when there is no comparison at all, and to live with what is, is to be peaceful.
• A good teacher protects his pupils from his own influence.
• To know oneself is to study oneself in action with another person.
• Always be yourself, express yourself, have faith in yourself, do not go out and look for a successful personality and duplicate it.
• If you always put limit on everything you do, physical or anything else, it will spread into your work and into your life. There are no limits. There are only plateaus, and you must not stay there, you must go beyond them.
• Do not deny the classical approach, simply as a reaction, or you will have created another pattern and trapped yourself there.
• Real living is living for others.
• I’m not in this world to live up to your expectations and you’re not in this world to live up to mine.
• Many people dedicate their lives to actualizing a concept of what they should be like, rather than actualizing themselves. This difference between self-actualization and self-image actualization is very important. Most people live only for their image.
• It’s not the daily increase but daily decrease. Hack away at the unessential.
• The stillness in stillness is not the real stillness; only when there is stillness in movement does the universal rhythm manifest.
• As love grows older, our hearts mature and our love becomes as coals, deep-burning and unquenchable.
• A good martial artist does not become tense, but ready. Not thinking, yet not dreaming. Ready for whatever may come. When the opponent expands, I contract; and when he contracts, I expand. And when there is an opportunity, “I” do not hit, “it” hits all by itself.
• If nothing within you stays rigid, outward things will disclose themselves. Moving, be like water. Still, be like a mirror. Respond like an echo.
• Things live by moving and gain strength as they go.
• Notice that the stiffest tree is most easily cracked, while the bamboo or willow survives by bending with the wind.
• A wise man can learn more from a foolish question than a fool can learn from a wise answer.
• If you don’t want to slip up tomorrow, speak the truth today.
• A quick temper will make a fool of you soon enough.
• The knowledge and skills you have achieved are meant to be forgotten so you can float comfortably in emptiness, without obstruction.
• If you want to learn to swim jump into the water. On dry land no frame of mind is ever going to help you.
• If there is a God, he is within. You don’t ask God to give you things, you depend on God for your inner theme.

Woman

When God created woman he was working late on the 6th day.......

An angel came by and asked." Why spend so much time on her ?".
.
The lord answered. " Have you seen all the specifications I have to meet to shape her?".....

" She must be washable but not made of plastic, ..
have more than 200 moving parts which must be replaceable

she must function on all kinds of foods, ...

she must be able to embrace several kids at the same time,

give a hug that can heal anything from a bruised knee to a broken heart ,

she must do all this with only two hands,.."

She cures herself when sick and can work 18 hours a day".... ...
THE ANGEL was impressed. .." Just two hands.....impossible !" ..

And this is the standard model ? ! ...."

The Angel came closer and touched the woman"...... ..                                                                     " But you have made her so soft, Lord"......" She is soft", said the Lord,

" But I have made her strong. You can't imagine what she can endure and overcome "...

"Can she think?" The Angel asked...

The Lord answered. " Not only can she think, she can reason and negotiate" ...

The Angel touched her cheeks.....

" Lord, it seems this creation is leaking ! You have put too many burdens on her. " ...

"She is not leaking...it is a tear" The Lord corrected the Angel...

" What's it for?" Asked the Angel.....

The Lord said. " Tears are her way of expressing
her grief,
her doubts,
her love,
her loneliness,
her suffering and
her pride."...

THIS made a big impression on the Angel,

" Lord, you are genius.
You thought of everything.
A woman is indeed marvellous !".... ...

Lord said." Indeed she is.

She has strength that amazes a man.

She can handle trouble and carry heavy burdens.

She holds happiness, love and opinions.

She smiles when she feels like screaming.

She sings when she feels like crying,
cries when happy and
laughs when afraid.

She fights for what she believes in.

Her love is unconditional.

Her heart is broken when a next-of-kin or a friend dies

but she finds strength to get on with life." ..

The Angel asked : So she is a perfect ?

The lord replied : No. She has just one drawback

" She often forgets what she is worth".

Honest(ly) Exposed

"You can't hang out like western girls, you can't wear shorts, you can't befriend boys unless we force you to sleep with one of our choice!" All because - you are respect of our family, caste, gotra, ancestry and the first born-long dead beings! All because, you are looked upon as a 'sanskaari-kanya', who should love only the one who agrees to marry you for huge heaps of dowry and treat you as domestic assistance, he's the one that we find for you, not because he loves you, oh he doesn't, but he'll fall in love with you. It happens. It will happen. If it doesn't, you have to 'adjust' because that's what you're supposed to do, that's what we expect of you. Divorce is such a western and unethical thing that it brings shame. Your own love interest is an unfaithful and disloyal person who will leave and divorce you, because love marriages don't last like arranged ones! So leave the man you love and marry the one we found for you. He's the right choice. How do we know? Well, we don't. Honestly, we don't. He may turn out to be an unapologetic bastard, but we/you can't do anything about it. This is what happened with us, our parents found a match for us so its our responsibility to find a match for you, doesn't matter if time has changed or if good single guys/girls are almost extinct, but we will make sure that we show off our wealth as much as possible to get you a good groom! The savings which would help us in old age, don't worry about them, we are buying a car for the groom because we won't 'waste' that money in educating you! Educating you will ruin so many years and waste so much time. The time of your youth in which you should get married. That's the marriageable age, isn't it? 

These are few honest reasons given by parents to their daughters when they want to get them married, doesn't matter if the girl wants to study ahead, or doesn't want to marry yet. If you want to study further , get married and take permission of your in-laws. The whole hollow concept of tradition of  marriages is a mockery, the peak of hypocrisy and height of stupidity in this otherwise claimed to be the most moral and righteous culture of entire world. Why are we so double faced in most sensitive matters? We don't want to educate our kids about sensitive matters at right age but expect them to understand everything. We want them to have their own life @ our conditions. We want to stop guys and girls from dating, but we can't stop rapes.  We stop girls from celebrating valentines day in company of their boyfriends, but we can't assure their safety on streets while they're alone.We worship little girls as "devi" during navratras but don't hesitate to kill them in mother's womb. Last but not the least, I never understood this - We warn them from befriending a guy, but we want them to marry a guy she doesn't even know.